(The following chapter is from my upcoming book Live Life Aggressively What Self Help Gurus Don't Want You To Know)
Is Your Flawed Decision-Making Process Holding You Back? Time To Change Your Way of Thinking!
By Mike Mahler

Its not
easy for the brain to choose a long-term gain over an immediate
reward—such a decision takes cognitive effort—which is why getting
rid of anything that makes the choice harder is so important.—Jonah
Lehrer, How We Decide
Every January people start yet another year
excited about achieving their latest goals, hoping this is the year
that they finally make things happen. Yet--tragically--most people
give up on their goals before January is even over.
Why do people fail to see their goals through?
Do they simply lack discipline and perseverance? Are most
people so delusional they don't care about achieving the goals
they've set? While we could argue both those points , there's
still more to it--and it starts with our brains, specifically those
parts of the brain which affect the decision making process: the
emotional and rational brains.
It's important to take the time to determine how
it is you make decisions. Does the emotional brain persuade you?
Or does the rational brain dominate? What are the pros and
cons of the emotional brain and the rational brain? More
importantly, is your current decision making process--or lack
thereof--holding you back?
Let's start by taking a look at the pitfalls of
being emotional-brain dominant. The emotional brain seeks immediate
gratification and seeks to avoid that which it perceives as pain and
loss. Further, in attempting to make sense of things (that may
have no real explanation) the emotional brain looks for
(non-existent) patterns. Yes, in some ways the emotional brain is
delusional.
The immediate gratification aspect of the
emotional brain make credit cards and your emotional brain a
disastrous combination. When using credit cards to make purchases,
the brain doesn't cognize any sense of loss. When pulling cash
from your wallet, the eyes see--and the fingers feel--your wallet
immediately lighten. In this way, through the sense organs,
the rational brain will kicks in to supervise cash purchases.
However, with credit cards, the rational brain often fails to show
up--why is this? The eyes see something the mind desires and
if no impending loss is factored in with an exchange of cash, before
you've consulted your rational aspect, the transaction is done by
credit card. The emotional brain loves shiny credit cards and
without the rational brain to balance out this unhealthy
affection, you could find yourself in big trouble. That the average
U.S. citizen carries over $10,000 in credit card debt is a perfect
illustration of what I'm talking about.
Most of us can relate to the experience of
receiving a credit card statement and feeling shock and disbelief at
the balance. We wonder how did all of the charges get there?
The first reaction may be to wonder if your credit card was stolen!
Then, as you carefully peruse each itemized purchase, reality takes
a seat beside you. In fact, you did buy all those things and the
total is correct. Promising yourself to never repeat this
grievous mistake and wishing to celebrate your new found discipline,
you take your credit card to the local bar and buy everyone a round!
Yes, the emotional brain is easily seduced by that temptress, the
credit card. To the emotional brain, credit cards offer the illusion
of both immediate gratification and pain avoidance when, in fact, it
is merely immediate gratification. Going into consumer debt,
with its high interest rate, is the epitome of pain and suffering,
thus, paradoxically the long-term loss inherent to credit card debt
is the very thing the emotional brain is so desperate to avoid.
Poor food choices are another example of the
emotional brain in action. Since the long-term negative
consequences of wrong diet take time to manifest, the emotional
brain hones in on the immediate gratifications of junk food. If
consuming fast foods resulted in instant heart attacks or visibly
expanded guts or--bam!!--cellulite, then it'd be easy to refuse.
Unfortunately, the damage accrues slowly--compounding over
time--much like consumer debt. Similarly--but with a different
outcome--the positive effects of appropriate exercise and sound
nutrition also take time to accrue--which is one reason why people
find it difficult to stay the course. If people could join a
gym and eat a few good meals, instantly gaining muscle and losing
buckets of fat from a little proper nutrition and exercise, well, it
would be easy to keep it up! Unfortunately for the
undisciplined, the diligence of training and dieting is generally
too much to ask of the modern person operating from the emotional
brain. The entire process is instead (mistakenly) perceived as an
(undesirable) loss. In this endeavor, we must harness the rational
brain to help us see the truth behind the appearances. In this
way, using both aspects of the mind, we can eventually meet our
physical goals and the emotional brain can bask in the gratification
of looking and feeling great. Without hitching up the rational
brain, however, few of us are able to endure the discomfort, which
is all too obvious when you look around you and see the current vogue of
obesity.
Investing is another area fraught with disaster
when dominated by the emotional brain. The emotional brain's fear of
loss causes it to miss the big picture--ironically creating more
loss. According to author Jonah Lehrer (How
We Decide) statistics show that from 1926 to the present, stocks
have always outperformed
bonds--with an average annual return of 6.4% versus 0.5% for bonds.
Nevertheless, in an attempt to avoid risk many investors place most
of their savings in bonds--and end up losing significant potential
earnings in the long run. If people enlisted their rational
brains in their decision making process, they might realize realize
that index funds (such as Vanguard’s total stock market fund) are
safer, more lucrative, choices, especially for younger people with a
longer time span before retirement. For those investors closer
to retirement age, bonds can be a sound choice.
Another ambiguous brain terrain is your career.
Emotional brain-dominant people often work--for other people--in
jobs for which they have no passion, since the emotional brain,
desiring to avoid (perceived) loss at all costs, will resist the
risks of pursuing your dream occupation. "Risk
aversion" is the excuse people make for remaining in hateful
jobs while postponing their true vocations. Yet the current economic
crisis clearly proves that job security is as big an illusion as
ever existed. The reality? You’re better off recognizing
what it is you want to do for a living, then creating a plan (and
putting in the necessary effort) to get there. However, first
you'll need to win over the emotional brain and its inherent
reluctance to take risks and avoid perceived loss...that or do hard
time in a miserable job. It all depends on your definition of
"loss".
After reading this much about of the emotional
brain, you might think the rational brain to be superior. Not so
fast! Before attempting to relinquish all emotion and become a
real life Mr. Spock, let's take a closer look at the shortcomings of
the rational brain. According to Lehrer, relying too much on
the rational brain leads to over analysis, which results in
inaction. In addition, the rational brain can cause you to
over value information, i.e. sensory input, if not balanced with the
intuitive cognition of the emotional brain. Finally, while the
rational brain loves information, it can only handle so much at a
time. Too much information creates a state of over stimulation,
which leaves the mind distracted and confused, thus understanding
little. Rational brain-dominance retards your overall growth
potential.
Any time you learn a new skill the rational brain
comes into play. Remember when you first learned to drive a car?
Everything was new so your rational/conscious brain broke the skills
down move by move: fastening the seat belt; shifting into
drive; and pressing the foot to the accelerator pedal. Over
time, as you acquired the skill of driving and the task shifted to
the emotional brain, the rational brain played a less significant
role. In short, once you know what to do, you needn't
consciously think about it. (On the other hand, given the skill set of the
typical Las Vegas driver, most would do well taking a step back and
letting their rational brains do the driving--perhaps they never
brought them out in the first place!)
To recap: learning a new skill is the domain of
the rational brain but once you've assimilated that skill, the
emotional brain retains the memory. This is efficient since the
rational brain can only process a limited amount of information at a
time. Once the skill is acquired, the rational brain empties
its cup to the emotional brain to better analyze new incoming
information, leading to new skills. If you continually function from
the rational brain, your thinking pathways will quickly become rife
with clutter. It's the sleek emotional brain that operates without
the clumsy burden of conscious thought, thus the rational brain can
purge its tendency to excess baggage.
Still, there's a hitch: you must consciously
choose to enlist the counsel of both the rational and emotional
brains. Otherwise, it's too easy to favor the one while avoiding the
other. Engaging the rational brain to learn a skill, then assigning
the memory to the archival emotional brain requires letting go of
the conscious thought process--which is easier for some than others.
But hoarding skills in the rational brain is the source of pedantry,
among other character flaws. Attachment to the rational brain
(or the emotional brain--or anything else!--for that matter) is a
habit, a form of comfort. If it's an entrenched habit, even life
long, learning to re-wire the brain for better balance will take
time and conscious effort. The good news is you can use the
rational brain to acquire some new, intuitive/emotional skills!
It all starts with learning more about your true self and
understanding how your mind functions. Not an easy task but truly
the most important task of your lifetime.
You see, while the rational brain is great at
researching and analyzing information, it is not very good at
distilling emotional truths, i.e., assessing what it is you
really want. If you‘re continually amassing and scanning
information, your emotional brain is blocked from doing what it does
best, that is, discerning truth from appearances. This is why
over analysis is simply another form of distraction--what I l call active procrastination. As long as you continue to research and
analyze, you preclude the emotional brain from making any decisions,
and in this way, you'll never see any action. In fact, this is how
to delay action indefinitely,
since action is defined by the possibility of failure. As long as
you fail to act, you'll never have to worry about failing out in the
world--or so the rational mind would have you believe. Of
course, you'll fail to pursue your goal, but somehow this detail
gets overlooked in the analysis of the externals.
Too much information is like too much food, you
choke and go into a panic. The key is to choose your sources of
information wisely, using discernment. The rational brain is
like a valued servant, blocking the mind's entrance from street riff
raff. Use the rational brain to acquire the appropriate
information in the right amount of information, then take some time
off from data processing to make any relevant decisions. Genuine
wisdom requires both aspects of the brain.
For example, let's say you wish to decide whether
to quit your job in order to pursue something more meaningful.
First, using the rational brain, consider the pros and cons, once
you've done a thoughtful analysis, allow yourself some time to
digest your thoughts. The emotional brain, through the process
of discernment, can then assimilate that which is in your best
interests, discarding any, well, rationalizations! Thus the rational
brain assays the options while the intuition of the emotional brain
extracts the essence, collaborating in a wise decision.
Over reliance on the rational brain equates to
over reliance on dubious information, i.e. sensory input, and can
result in poor performance. To illustrate this point, Lehrer
references a study from Stanford University wherein the study
subjects consumed an energy drink prior to completing a test. Group
A paid full price for the drink while Group B was offered a
significant discount for the same drink. The full price group
outperformed the discount group. It seems that Group B assumed their
discount drink was inferior and so their performance suffered. This
is a case of the rational brain drawing a conclusion from a
arbitrary price, which is simply information. Assuming you get what
you pay for can have a shadow side, since that which costs more money
isn't always superior to that which costs less. It can be
complicated, which is why we need our archived, intuitive/emotional
intelligence. It is neither adequate nor wise to solely rely upon
sensory information via the rational brain.
In order to make good decisions, we need to be
well-informed, but too much information (or even too much
information access) can be overwhelming. This brings to mind
the typical person I encounter within the fitness world. Most people
have neither the patience nor discipline to adhere to a single
program long enough to derive its maximum benefit. For
example, one week they'll commit to training for a kettlebell sport
competition, then they read an article about Clubbell training and
switch tacks. The following week, a new magazine comes out with a
feature article on Strongman training our trainee get excited. Then
it's all Strongman training for a week or so until they read about
the benefits of sandbag training...you see where this is going.
Sometimes the best move a trainee can make is to
assess his goals and choose a program--then avoid doing any further
research for the duration of that program. Follow the program from
start to finish with no modifications or rationalizations. Then
re-assess and do some more research. This is harder then it may
sound! In our information glutted society, with myriad free
programs on the Internet, plus books and magazines fitness and
training, it's no wonder people have difficulty picking one
program and persisting, since choosing one program entails a sense
of loss over all the other programs out there. Let the
rational brain assess your goals and resources, then access the
emotional brain's cognition of the appropriate course of action.
Intellect is a powerful tool, but an imbalance of intellect can
narrow your field of vision.
So at this point, it sounds like the rational
brain and emotional brain are both flawed. Perhaps they are, in
their lower, undeveloped natures--as are we all. The best we can do
is to continually refine our rational and emotional processes so
that we're functioning at a high level of cognition. This
requires a balancing of both the rational and emotional brains, what
amounts to a friendly dialogue between the two. In this way,
the emotional and rational brains regulate each other. We need ready
access to both aspects in order to make our best decisions. We
can regulate hyper-emotional response by pausing and allowing the
rational brain step in and assess any situation. On the other hand
we can regulate rational thinking by cutting off analysis before it
goes into overload, cutting off further sensory input, and appealing
to the emotional brain for guidance.
The emotional brain informs you of what it is
your heart wants while the rational brain puts together your best
plan for acquiring it. After you've done the requisite
research with the rational brain, it's time to take a break and let
the emotional brain and its intuitive aspect come up with an
original idea. When you are tempted by impulse purchases, give
the rational brain some airtime and initiate an internal discourse.
The rational brain can help you delay gratifications and even help
you see the merit in making present sacrifices for future rewards.
On the other hand, the emotional brain will help you live in the
moment instead of always awaiting a future that never arrives.
Of course it's all about balance: too much delayed
gratification detracts from the joy of the present moment while too
little delayed gratification prevents putting necessary plans in
place for the future. In order to live life fully, we need to master
the best aspects of both the rational and emotional aspects of
ourselves.
Too many people live their lives on autopilot,
never understanding why they feel so much agitation and
dissatisfaction. Taking time to think about who you are--and how you
make decisions--is very important to your overall well being. Failure to achieve your goals is usually due to your own flawed
decision-making processes. Take the time to observe whether
you are emotional brain dominant or rational brain dominant. What effect has this had on your life?
Don’t just assume
things will simply get better with time, time is fleeting. Instead, learn more about yourself and how your mind works and make
things better now.
Live Life Aggressively!
Mike Mahler
***Article Edited by Teresa Blazey: teresa.blazey@gmail.com








